You know what lasts longer than beauty? Being smart.
It’s easy to pretend ‘to be fierce and fearless because living your truth takes real courage. Real fearless and fierce women admit mistakes and they work to correct them. We stand up and we use our voices for things other than self promotion. We don’t stand by and let racism and sexism and homophobia run rapid on our watch. Real fearless and fierce women complement other women and we recognize and embrace that their shine in no way diminishes our light and that it actually makes our light shine brighter.
I decided to follow my dreams and my passions and to always have an adventure, no matter what it is.
I can’t just say one time of the year I’m going to do something different. I have to commit to a lifestyle behavioral change and just try to be a little bit better today than I was yesterday.
We give a lot of others significance in our lives even when they don’t deserve it. It doesn’t matter if they’re family or if you’ve known them forever. If they’re not good for you, they’ve got to go.
We all have to let go of the Prince Charming complex and realize he doesn’t necessarily exist in the package we assume he’ll come in.
I’ve lost a lot. I’ve lost money, and my reputation has taken a hit for taking the high road to protect my dignity, to protect children, and for other good causes. But I don’t think there’s ever too steep a price for doing the right thing.
You have to be resilient.
If someone lacked decency or respect, I didn’t allow that person to stay in my world.
I realized I had been keeping people around even when deep down I knew they were bad for me. I had overridden myself.
I date, but the person I date most is myself, unfortunately.
When someone who loves and cares about me compliments me, I feel more glamorous than when the flashbulbs are going off on the red carpet.
If we can have drones, we can have brown people on TV, and the world won’t end! We need to catch up. We are painfully behind.
My wish for the world would be to end violence against women. My wish for myself would be for peace of mind.
I had to learn – since I’m divorced now and everyone is like, ‘Oh my God, you’re single, what’s going on?’ – that if I don’t like to spend time with myself, how can I ask someone else to enjoy spending time with me? I’m getting to learn how to enjoy my solitude and have a good time.
I’m not going to change the world overnight. It’s one person at a time, and hopefully they’re people in positions of power who can help people get in those roles and really, truly embrace colorblind casting.
I was always in the popular crowd, but I really had atrocious teeth. I was encouraged to ‘do well in school, ’cause no one’s going to marry you!’
I encourage people to ask whatever question you’re most interested in hearing the answer to.
Hollywood needs to recognise all shades of African American beauty.
I love romantic comedies. They’re for me the easiest thing to do and the most natural to do. There’s nothing natural about holding an uzi hanging out of a moving van shooting at people. That’s not second nature to me, thank God.
I think there’s a lot of things that occur within the African-American community, that we would prefer to stay within the African-American community – that we get a little nervous when you start having scenes or dialogue that we know is going to be viewed and heard on a national or global scale.
I drink a gallon of water a day.
I’m competing with everyone, but it’s okay because they’re not aware. I can’t shut that impulse off. And I’m glad, because that impulse keeps me on the treadmill. If I didn’t have it, I would be like, “Great! Ten minutes! I’m good.” But if I’m competing, I can see what level someone’s on and I can top it.
I had been living the life that society tends to dictate for women of a certain age. You marry the person who asks you, even though he may or may not be the best one for you. Around the time that I got divorced, I had an epiphany that there is no blue ribbon or gold medal for living someone else’s life, for fulfilling someone else’s dreams. It’s doesn’t make you happy. You just end up with a life that’s not yours.
What’s interesting is that producers, directors and writers tend to typecast me in terms of whatever movie they’ve seen me in most recently.