My motto is: look your best, feel your best, but most of all, be your best at any age.
Even when something does not go my way, I get up and fight, that is what keeps me going.
Shameless is a show I would watch even if I wasn’t on it, it’s my kind of show.
I want to see 61, and one day I want to see 90, so that means I have to keep having birthdays. So what am I supposed to do? Be ashamed because I’m getting older? No, how about I embrace myself, my age, the space that God has put me in, and learn from and teach other people and we support each other as women, because we’re all beautiful – different sizes, shapes, colors – and we celebrate ourselves as we grow older and become better.
If something scares you, you run toward it, not away from it.
The thing that I’ve learned is to stay ready to be ready, and I tell this to young people all the time. You don’t have time to get ready. So, what that means to me is if you don’t like your hair, your weave is wack, your teeth need fixing, if your attitude needs adjusting and you need therapy, you really want to lose 10 pounds – whatever that is for you – then you need to work on it starting now.
Anytime anybody asks you to do anything that is celebrating you or highlighting your life, just the fact that they cared enough about me, who am I to say no? It’s a form of flattery to me and I take those things seriously, because in the long run, people don’t have to care about you.
God has created you and be proud of it. Don’t hide from your age. Don’t lie about it. Don’t be ashamed of it and don’t let nobody make you feel ashamed because you’re aging in the world. It’s a privilege. God has blessed you. Michael Jackson, Prince, Whitney, they’ll never know what it’s like to be 60. They’ll never know that.
I get hired to be a certain character, but I cannot change my look especially since I have been in the business this long. I can’t gain 20 pounds and wonder why I am not working anymore or I’d have to transition into other types of roles. You have to take care of yourself and be vigilant.
I don’t think I avoided being type cast, because I do sometimes get similar roles. It is not a bad thing because we are strong at what we are strong at, not meaning that we cannot do other things, but sometimes somebody else might bring a little more realism than you, because that is more of who they are than who you are. I do get a chance to play other people and other types of roles.
Whitney won’t ever even know what it’s like to be 50. Whitney will never know what it’s like to be 50. She died before she was 50. So there’s nothing to be ashamed of. You should be proud of your age.
Don’t be ashamed of your age. You’ve lived a long time. You’ve learned a lot. Tout you knowledge. Be proud of your experience. Be proud of who you’ve become. Don’t hide, and don’t be ashamed like, “Oh my God. I’m nearly turning 50,” or, “I’m turning 60. Shhh, don’t tell nobody.”
Women are age-shamed. Women should they be put out to pasture. And it’s not about people trying to look like me at 60. I’m not suggesting that, but look your best, feel your best, but most of all, be your best. And it’s not only for women of 60. It’s about women of all age, when you’re 20 till you die. Whatever era you’re in, whatever decade, whatever age you are, learn how to embrace it. Don’t be ashamed of it. Be proud of it, because there’s no negotiation. Either you get older, or you’re dead. It’s that simple.
I like Twitter, actually and I like Instagram and I like talking to people. Most weeks, I’ll take a day, a morning or two out of my day and I’ll sit and I’ll just answer my tweets. You have to get back quickly. And I think that’s important to let people know that you see them because they took the time to acknowledge me. And they took the time to if you want to be my fan and to follow me and appreciate what I do.
I realized that a dancer’s life is very short and I had so much of a creative energy in me that I needed outlets to do other things so that’s when I started acting more and it all kind of blended together. When you’re on stage you’re acting and you’re dancing, it started blended together now.
One thing I’ve learned in my career is that you don’t have to answer people right away. I’ve learned how to say, “Can I get back to you about that?” Now I’ve given myself time to really assess what you asked me to do or what the situation is, think about it, then come up with a plan. Then by doing that, when I come back to you, it’s not what I say it’s how I say it.
You have to control things, especially with the social media, because once it’s out there, it’s out there. And that becomes the fact.
Actors have to stay ready and be ready. They need to adjust things in their life, whether it be hair, teeth, take the time to do that.